Vacation: Fun Time
I was on vacation on July 2016, before joining my new Job, I wanted to spend some time with my family after 6 months. I went home, it was 7 days holiday for me. Reached Bhubaneswar, My father was their for me to receive. He drove me to the home. My Mother and sister was very excited and eagerly waited for me to welcome me.
We started talking sitting on sofa for long hour at late night, about my job, career and life, and after then testy dinner with whole family.
We all went to bed, There was one bed me and my father have to shared, and we slept. First one and tow days went well.
Social:
Then my parents forced me to go to relative's house to meet them, after long force, I went to my relative's house. They offered me dinner, but I was full eating whole day lot of testy food on my city.(Bhubaneswar is famous for its food, and I am die hard foodie.) I could not eat dinner, but that day my mother was angry on me, because I was roaming all day, eating out side food not home food. So I wanted to have dinner with my mother, So I asked my relative to excuse me for the dinner and refused them and back to home.
I reached around 10PM at night, every body was ready for dinner, my mother asked me did you eat food at relative's house, I said "NO".
My Mother gave me food,(I have to eat food from my mother, because she was angry, so I could not refuse, because she might got more angry) we all family was eating together.
Anger:
Suddenly my father asked me why you did not have food at relative's house(My BUA, Father's Sister). I said, I was having full stomach that time. Then my father angrily told me, You came before just 10 minute from BUA's House, now you are eating, are you hungry now. I felt little bad. :P but he was right, he wanted me to eat at BUA's house. He is a very relation keeping guy, he knows, BUA will felt bad, if I would not eat at their home, so he felt angry on me. But I was sad.
I could not talk more that time, because I don't want to argue with him. Then next day father asked me to give some gift to mother. I thought of giving, then I directly transfer money my sister, asked her to buy gift. In the after noon, I got a call from my father, DID you brought gift?? I said i had transferred money to sister.
Then my father got more angry and said, don't you know difference between giving money and gift. Have you forgotten all relation, and how to treat whom. I felt more bad. and after then I could not talk to my father.
Sad:
When I feel bad or angry, I became silent, I could not talk to any body, this is also happen in this case. 3 more days left for the holiday, But I was not responding to my father properly or not talking to them, because I was feeling angry.
I was thinking, I came after so long period to my home, nobody caring me , all caring about others, but not me, this thought add some fuel to my anger. and finally on last day, my father dropped me at airport, waited till we board, I can see him waiting till then from inside. He was so worried about my behavior towards him,
To be very frank, my father is very caring guy, he do care extra than any one deserves. :)
I was feeling guilty after seeing him waiting at airport, But my anger was their fighting against my emotion.
Realizaion of fault:
Then when I arrived at New Delhi, I got a message, from my sister, why you were behaving like that. All were feeling bad at home, I said her
"I went to home, after a long time, but every body was caring about others, No body was caring about me."
My sister replied me very nice answer that made me realized my guilty.She said
"You are 26, You are not a child now, Parent did care for you more than 25 years, But now your turn to give them return, so you should not expect that from them now onward, they are seeking your love, and your behavior made them sad".
I was so sad, and realized my fault. But I never did ask sorry to my father. This comes the hardest part for me, because I was not a open in front my father so much. I could not sleep for more than two days about this.
This was really making me sad, after realizing my fault. I wanted to touch his feet and beg sorry for all my did.
So finally, I gathered all courage , after two days, I came from office, called home,mother received phone, and I asked , Is father there? she said, he is still in office.
Then I waited and called after one hour. Fortunately this time, father received called, he talked me normal like nothing happen. I interrupt him between some talk, and Said "Bapa, I am sorry for all things, that I did not talk to you or respond to your question properly during holidays.I was angry. I am really sorry. "
My Father: You were angry, but I was never, neither I could be angry on you, we are your parents, and understand you, Now chill, and don't be said about it. God Bless.
I was in heaven for some time, so much happy after hearing this. I said thanks, and cut the call after some time.
You cant imagine, I was so relaxed after talking.
From that day, I promised, not to behave to any one like this to any one ever.
Reason, Why I am writing this article is , I am going home Jan 2017, So I don't want to do same mistake again. So by writing this, I may correct my behavior more. :)
I was on vacation on July 2016, before joining my new Job, I wanted to spend some time with my family after 6 months. I went home, it was 7 days holiday for me. Reached Bhubaneswar, My father was their for me to receive. He drove me to the home. My Mother and sister was very excited and eagerly waited for me to welcome me.
We started talking sitting on sofa for long hour at late night, about my job, career and life, and after then testy dinner with whole family.
We all went to bed, There was one bed me and my father have to shared, and we slept. First one and tow days went well.
Social:
Then my parents forced me to go to relative's house to meet them, after long force, I went to my relative's house. They offered me dinner, but I was full eating whole day lot of testy food on my city.(Bhubaneswar is famous for its food, and I am die hard foodie.) I could not eat dinner, but that day my mother was angry on me, because I was roaming all day, eating out side food not home food. So I wanted to have dinner with my mother, So I asked my relative to excuse me for the dinner and refused them and back to home.
I reached around 10PM at night, every body was ready for dinner, my mother asked me did you eat food at relative's house, I said "NO".
My Mother gave me food,(I have to eat food from my mother, because she was angry, so I could not refuse, because she might got more angry) we all family was eating together.
Anger:
Suddenly my father asked me why you did not have food at relative's house(My BUA, Father's Sister). I said, I was having full stomach that time. Then my father angrily told me, You came before just 10 minute from BUA's House, now you are eating, are you hungry now. I felt little bad. :P but he was right, he wanted me to eat at BUA's house. He is a very relation keeping guy, he knows, BUA will felt bad, if I would not eat at their home, so he felt angry on me. But I was sad.
I could not talk more that time, because I don't want to argue with him. Then next day father asked me to give some gift to mother. I thought of giving, then I directly transfer money my sister, asked her to buy gift. In the after noon, I got a call from my father, DID you brought gift?? I said i had transferred money to sister.
Then my father got more angry and said, don't you know difference between giving money and gift. Have you forgotten all relation, and how to treat whom. I felt more bad. and after then I could not talk to my father.
Sad:
When I feel bad or angry, I became silent, I could not talk to any body, this is also happen in this case. 3 more days left for the holiday, But I was not responding to my father properly or not talking to them, because I was feeling angry.
I was thinking, I came after so long period to my home, nobody caring me , all caring about others, but not me, this thought add some fuel to my anger. and finally on last day, my father dropped me at airport, waited till we board, I can see him waiting till then from inside. He was so worried about my behavior towards him,
To be very frank, my father is very caring guy, he do care extra than any one deserves. :)
I was feeling guilty after seeing him waiting at airport, But my anger was their fighting against my emotion.
Realizaion of fault:
Then when I arrived at New Delhi, I got a message, from my sister, why you were behaving like that. All were feeling bad at home, I said her
"I went to home, after a long time, but every body was caring about others, No body was caring about me."
My sister replied me very nice answer that made me realized my guilty.She said
"You are 26, You are not a child now, Parent did care for you more than 25 years, But now your turn to give them return, so you should not expect that from them now onward, they are seeking your love, and your behavior made them sad".
I was so sad, and realized my fault. But I never did ask sorry to my father. This comes the hardest part for me, because I was not a open in front my father so much. I could not sleep for more than two days about this.
This was really making me sad, after realizing my fault. I wanted to touch his feet and beg sorry for all my did.
So finally, I gathered all courage , after two days, I came from office, called home,mother received phone, and I asked , Is father there? she said, he is still in office.
Then I waited and called after one hour. Fortunately this time, father received called, he talked me normal like nothing happen. I interrupt him between some talk, and Said "Bapa, I am sorry for all things, that I did not talk to you or respond to your question properly during holidays.I was angry. I am really sorry. "
My Father: You were angry, but I was never, neither I could be angry on you, we are your parents, and understand you, Now chill, and don't be said about it. God Bless.
I was in heaven for some time, so much happy after hearing this. I said thanks, and cut the call after some time.
You cant imagine, I was so relaxed after talking.
From that day, I promised, not to behave to any one like this to any one ever.
Reason, Why I am writing this article is , I am going home Jan 2017, So I don't want to do same mistake again. So by writing this, I may correct my behavior more. :)
